The beliefs we have about ourselves, about what we should have accomplished, about how we should behave, about what a mother, family, or wife is determine whether we are satisfied with ourselves and ultimately whether we love and accept ourselves. Many women feel frustration and even self-hatred or at least disappointment surrounding their roles as wives, lovers, career women, and mothers. They hold themselves to standards that are based on rules. These rules are based on beliefs about what a woman is.

Women do have a quest at this time in our culture. It is the quest to fully embrace their feminine nature, learning how to value themselves as women and heal the deep wound of the feminine.[i]

What is the deep wound of the feminine? For at least over 4500 years, women, most particularly, woman\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\'s sexuality, has been the domain of the men in their lives; whether it be fathers, brothers, husbands, lovers, or even judges. I am not launching a feminist tirade, but it is critical to acknowledge where we\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\'ve come from and what the past was like for women who came before us.

Each individual is birthed from the societal stew yet our lives are our own expression and responsibility. Part of being an adult is to learn how to stop blaming others and start manifesting ourselves, but this may be hard to do unless we carefully examine what we believe, where we came from, and how these two things relate to each other.

I use the illustration of the stew because a stew has distinct ingredients yet they all influence each other either through dominating flavoring or in more subtle ways. All the ingredients take up the properties of everything that is in the stew. The properties from our societal stew linger in our minds acting like silent partners - governing our lives (our subconscious mind).

Can you name something you did in the last week but now you have no idea why you did it?
Or did you do something you swore you wouldn\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\'t do, but did?

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Buying a Horse

You\'ve finally decided that you want a horse of your own, so now you can simply go out and buy one, right? Well, a horse isn\'t exactly as simple to own as a cute little kitten or a goldfish. Before you buy a horse, you will need to find a place to keep it. In addition, you should be aware of how much money you will need to spend to maintain your horse.

Horses need to be shoed, they need to receive vaccinations and they eat quite a lot. You will need to spend quite a lot on bedding, grooming supplies and tack as well. However, the most important thing you will need to do is to be sure you know how to buy a good horse.

There are plenty of horses you shouldn\'t buy out there. Some have bad habits like biting, kicking or cribbing which is what horse fanciers call the act of chewing on the edge of a stall. Others are not well trained. Although they may know some of the basics, they are only green broke, meaning they may be willing to wear a saddle, but do not know all of the signals that a thoroughly trained horse knows.

Finally, some horses are unhealthy. A problem with hooves or legs can render a horse worthless for riders. Owning a horse that can only handle a slow walk around the ring with a child on its back when you were hoping for an animal that could compete in shows is heartbreaking for a new horse owner.

Now that you know all of the things that can be wrong with a horse, how do you find the right horse for you? You should be careful about buying horses at an auction or through the newspaper. Instead, ask around at horse shows or other events. Serious competitors often move up to more challenging or flashier horses as they gain experience. Their old, dependable beginner horses are perfect for people who want a first horse.

If you find a horse that you are interested in, ask around before you hand over your cash, especially if the horse has competed in horse shows, barrel racing competitions or other events. Other horse owners will know if that horse has a nasty disposition or always balks at the chicken coop, which is a popular jump at shows. They may even know about health problems the horse has.

Once you investigate the horse\'s background, it is time to call in your veterinarian. Your vet will test your prospective horse\'s eyesight, hearing, heart and teeth. If you aren\'t sure how old the horse is, the vet can even estimate the animal\'s age by inspecting his teeth. Most importantly, however, your vet will take a look at the horse\'s legs and feet. He will be looking for swollen hocks, leg splints or thrush, which is a dangerous hoof infection that often is caused when a horse is left standing in dirty, wet bedding for long periods of time.

Finally, it is time to see if the horse is a good fit for you. Tack him up yourself to be sure he doesn\'t have any nasty habits, like refusing to take the bit or kicking and biting. Mount the horse and put him through his paces. Be on the lookout for flaws such as the inability to change leads or the refusal to back up on command. Some of these behaviors can be corrected with the help of a good trainer, but you will want your first horse to be well trained and well behaved.

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